Being Good In Bed (The aftermath of Foreplay)Being good in bed is a skill that will only develop with time, but first you must let your fear of failure get out of the way. The most important thing you need to know about being good in bed is that it's not really very complicated at all. This is a skill that feeds on its own success, in other words, practice makes perfect, as you’ve read a hundred times from us already. The first 90% percent of being good in bed consists of learning how to have basic sexual satisfaction with your partner and the fancy stuff, really the last 10% of the experience, will follow. A few simple techniques and the right attitude will get you there quite easily. So begin with confidence. It is very important to remember that joy and satisfaction, of BOTH partners are the prime goals of sexual intercourse. So be generous to your partner and the satisfaction you give her will come back to you. However, there are a few things you need to remember. Under ordinary circumstances, based on physiology, she can have multiple orgasms in fairly rapid successions, while you can't. She will take more time to warm up to the point where a really satisfying orgasm is possible than you will. Her response will vary in subtler and less predictable ways than yours. These three differences set your basic strategy, if you’d dare to call it that. The two basic things you need to do to be a good lover are to be slow and steady, and to pay her some good attention. The classic worst case scenario that is likely to happen is for you to jump on your woman, rush her through foreplay, enter her without any preamble, and to go on to orgasm before she even knows what hit her. She most probably won’t feel a thing. And unfortunately for you, women talk!  So first, take it slow! If she wants you to speed up, she will tell you so by herself. If, however, you don’t get a proper response, ask her how she likes what you're doing. The message that you want to please her will get through, and she’ll just start to melt. Respond to everything she does to you; it will encourage her to give you more. The worst feeling one can have during sexual intercourse, is the feeling of loneliness. Don’t do it to her, and she most certainly will not do it to you.
So paying attention and slowing down is still a great idea after penetration as it was before you plunged in. There are various techniques for slowing down, one of them being to thrust deep and then just freeze altogether for a few seconds. If your partner likes deep penetration, this will drive her crazy, and you'll score a few precious brownie points. However, if you’re built large, be careful with all that thrusting… You don’t want her writhing in pain instead of a shuddering orgasm. If you can pace things so you let go just after she begins to climax (that trusted shudder), you’ve succeeded in achieving a good mutual orgasm. Joining in harmony with her cries of ecstasy is quite good manners at this point. She'll feel appreciated. However, don’t fake it! Click here to be redirected to a comprehensive guide on the best Sex Positions you could experiment with. The post-coital cuddle is one of the nicest things you can do for her. She knows how hard you’ve been working, and she’ll love every bit of you for it. Just hold her gently for a while. Endearments and light kisses at this point can really send her over the top. Let the afterglow happen. Use this time to talk quietly about personal things, if you are trying to get to know her better. | 
